Where Great Sex Is Found

 

Married couples have allowed Hollywood, tabloids and sitcoms tell them about sex for too long. We need to quit thinking we’re missing out. Married couples, especially those who have been married for several years, have the ideal situation to be wholly fulfilled physically. Young sexy things prancing about on a television show don’t have anything on us.

Married couples have sex more often than singles, and like many things in life, the more you practice the better you get at it. Plus, it’s the only sexual relationship that has God’s blessing on it. You got Divine Power waiting to help you and your spouse get it on.

If sex between spouses isn’t good there’s something wrong.

Too often sex problems last for years because they aren’t addressed honestly and with intelligence. And the longer they go on, the more emotional damage they will inflict on a couple’s relationship.

Marriages are meant to have three kinds of love: Eros, Philia and Agape love. Philia and agape loves are easily discussed anywhere. You know if you and your spouse are friends. If you aren’t, make it happen. Have fun together. Enjoy each other. Spouses can be each other’s best friends. It takes work but it’s doable.

Agape love, also known as unconditional love, is also easily talked about. You know it if you get it and you know it if you give it. It has to do with accepting each other for who we are, giving each other room to grow, giving each other the benefit of the doubt. Only God gives this kind of love perfectly all the time. This isn’t easy to do but we know that going into a relationship. We know it is something that needs to be worked on the rest of our lives.

And then we get to Eros.

We thought we were experts in Eros when we were teens. Our hormones were racing. We easily felt those in-love-turned-on feelings. We didn’t have to think about it. If we were the kind who waited to have sex till the wedding night, we couldn’t wait to be married strictly for the sex.

The memories of these strong urges have branded themselves onto our souls. We come to the marriage bed still believing we’re supposed to be experts.

In reality we were never intimacy experts as teenagers. We were just experiencing biological impulses similar to how a stud horse reacts when a nearby mare is in heat.

If we could discuss sex as we do the other kinds of love we’d be better off. Instead, it’s a subject we keep in the dark. We relegate it to bad jokes or a therapist’s over-priced whine session.

When we have intimacy problems we search for answers on the internet, get duped into buying things that will enhance our libidos. Some even turn to pornography to get their marriage bed hot. This might work once or twice, but it’s just a band-aid for a sore that’s festering, a sore that will get worse when it’s covered up with cheap thrills that only validate the sexual illusion that does so much damage to flesh and blood relationships.

God gave us sex as an incredible gift and we need to use it. God wants every married couple to have a breath-taking, outstanding, awe-inspiring sex life. He wants us to “breed like rabbits” as the cliché states.

If we can’t do that, we have to figure out what’s stopping us. There could be a physical problem that a doctor can address. Insecurity or a secret behavior you’re hiding from your spouse will kill a sex life.          

A great sex life is necessary for a good marriage.

And our society needs all the good marriages we can give it.

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